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How to Win Him Back After a Breakup


Learning how to win him back is an in demand topic - and as it happens it's the topic of this post.
It's unfortunate but too many people who breakup go about trying to back together all wrong.
Most people who try and get back together after a breakup make the mistake of rushing things and trying to force the relationship because they fear that their ex will move on and forget about them. This usually backfires and has the opposite effect.
If you really want to win him back and you don't know where to start then follow the advice outlined below.
Firstly, don't come on too strong when you're trying to pursue your ex boyfriend. Instead remove yourself from the situation and break off all contact - this means no phone calls, text messages or emails. I know it's going to be hard to do but if you want to get his attention then you've got to give him a reason to miss you and contact you.
Too many people make the mistake of smothering their ex with contact because they are fearful that their ex will move on and forget about them. The problem with this is that smothering doesn't work and has the opposite effect. Instead of your ex wanting to be with you because they're curious about what you're doing and who you're with, they'll want to leave you especially if all you talk about is getting back together - it's too early for that conversation.
Secondly, you don't want to appear desperate. If you really want to win him back he's got to believe that you're over him and that you've moved on to something better. The key here is to give both you and your ex the time and space you need to get your thoughts and feelings sorted out after the breakup.
Also, don't start dating right away. Instead, spend time with your family and friends and figure out what you really want in life.

This isn't about making him jealous. This is about making him realize and understand the feelings that he had for you and the feelings that he probably still has but doesn't realize yet.
If you play your cards right and don't chase after him then things will eventually fall into place. The more time you spend apart the better off your chances of getting inside his head and having him think of you are. This is what it's all about. If you can get him to think about you and what you're doing eventually he will make contact either directly or indirectly with you to see what you're up to and once that's been done you're on the path to getting back together.
It's not easy to win him back, but if you're persistent and follow the advice outlined in this post you'll put yourself in a position where your ex boyfriend will want to contact you because he'll be curious about what you're doing and who you're with. The more effort you put in now, the less you'll have to do later.

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